It’s strange because like… some people are so desperate for someone that they’ll date anyone. Like, what does that do? You end up with someone who you don’t really like, but you stay with them anyway so that you aren’t alone? What does that accomplish?
There isn’t really a point in having someone as your boyfriend/girlfriend if you can’t see yourself being with them for a length of time. Otherwise, you’re just wasting each others time and effort… especially if you’re just together for that sake. It’s pointless.
I feel like some of my best decisions were only “dating” people for like, a couple of weeks to see how it was and then ending it because it was going nowhere and then having loose relationships with people who I cared about but didn’t know if I could be in a relationship with them… and it was worth it. I’m with someone who I love and who I can see myself being with for a really long time.
I have this friend and she was “dating” this guy online… he lied to her for a really long time about all this shit. Now, they’re “broken up” and he’s trying to date this other girl. She mentioned having a feeling of wanting to stab this girl, deep down and I said that her punishment would be dealing with a lying jerk. My friend’s reply to that was, at least she’d have a lying jerk. This blew me away. A lying jerk is not better than no one at all. All that does is give you a cynical attitude and low self esteem. It’s pathetic, really.
People today are just in such a hurry to be with someone and lose their virginity and be “in love” that they trick themselves into things that take time and need consideration. Getting into a relationship isn’t something that you do just because you’re lonely… that feeling will pass, but if you get into a shite relationship, that will affect every relationship you have for the rest of your life.
